Six Ways To Make People Like You
1. Become genuinely interested in other people
People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. It doesn’t matter how much power, education, or expertise you possess; people will respond to you more favorably if you first let them know that they matter to you as individuals.
2. Smile
A smile is inviting. There was a guy that worked in an educational trade show. He observed something interesting. Many people walked down the aisle, but at the last second, when they were almost past the booth, they would look up at him for a moment. More than half of those people saw his smile, made a sudden U-turn, and came back to look at his products in the booth. But when he made eye contact without a smile, people just kept walking.
If you want to draw others to you, light up your face with a smile.
3. Remember that a person’s name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound
4. Be a good listener – encourage others to talk about themselves
Novelist George Elliot advised, “Try to care about something in this vast world besides the gratification of small selfish desires. Try to care for what is best in thought and action – something that is good apart from the accidents of your own lot. Look on other lives besides your own. See what their troubles are, and how they are borne.”
There was this woman that had dinner with two important men. When asked for her impressions of the two men, she said, “When I left the dining room after sitting next to Mr Gladstone, I thought he was the cleverest man in England. But after sitting next to Mr Disraeli, I thought I was the cleverest woman in England!”
5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests
You probably know the Golden Rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. The Platinum Rule says, “Treat others the way they want to be treated.” Do that, and you almost can’t go wrong.
6. Make the other person feel important, and do it sincerely
It’s called “wooing” that stands for winning over others. Individuals who have “woo” are drawn to people and “want to learn their names, ask them questions, and find some area of common interest so that they can strike up a conversation and build rapport.” Some believe that “woo” is a natural strength that you have or you don’t. I believe that is true. But I also believe any person can develop people skills and learn to have charisma.
When talking about charisma, it all boils down to this: the person without charisma walks into a group and says, “Here I am.” The person with charisma walks into a group and says, “There you are.” Just about anybody can learn to do that.
